HOW FAR WOULD YOU GO TO GET OR KEEP A MAN?
New York attracts a multitude of young, ambitious and successful people. It’s a draw for highly educated, professional women in the prime of their marrying years. It’s also allures well-educated, highly sexual, money-driven men. But the problem is, there are far more women than men in the mix. Studies have revealed that in New York women outnumber men four to one. This often cited statistic is used to support an argument that the gender imbalance makes it more difficult for some women to find a partner. New York is described as a ‘candy store’ for straight single men on the dating scene, leaving gloomy prospects for young women because the male-to-female ratio is in favor of men.
Commentators have said that more women flock to the Big Apple than men in a bid to have it all but often eligible men are hard to find. More importantly when they find that man, an increasing number are unwilling to commit. On the one hand, the men that I interviewed said that they do not treat New York as a ‘candy store’ and that it was impossible for good men to get a date in NY. The men argue that the women are insane, that they limit themselves statistically as well as demographically to a tiny pool of men, some of whom are married, yes married, who meet their exacting requirements of a 7 figure salary, looks, and religion.
On the other hand the women said that a good man is hard to find. It’s the complaint of many women in New York that dateable men are either taken or gay. What are women to do about this quandary? Some would say leave New York and the East Coast. What if you do not want to leave New York, and like the woman, Jessica, in ‘Sleeping with a Wall Street Banker’ you have found your man. How far would you go to get and keep your man? Unmarried, childless and with a biological clock that has all but stopped ticking, Jessica feels betrayed by her ex-boyfriend. She is jealous of the woman who he is having a relationship with her ex-boyfriend and who, in Jessica’s eyes, is “her” person. Afflicted with Dissociative identity disorder (DID) – multiple personality disorder – she resorts to destruction.
I agree with what has been written, I think men and women are looking for different things at different times in their life, when you are young you look for love, as you get older it’s about security. Tina turner got it right when she said “what’s love got to do with it”. The link talked about ‘New York men and women’ it’s hard to find people with that kind of disposable income in Sheffield.
I like the stats about New York’s dating scene, and for me on a personal note, moving back to Florida will no doubt expose me to these “types” of scenarios…hmmm, avoid those Jess one’s though!
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Loren thank you for taking the time out to read my article. I look forward to looking at your blog.